Saturday, May 20, 2006
NOLA stars...
...shine a little brighter in my heart. Even though it's been dragged through the mud, the city still has an uncanny ability to put salve on the wounds the rest of the world gives us. That's a sign of home. There's still beauty there, the spirit is still there, all the things I still love about it. The spirit of the people: humor even in the face of disaster. Listen, baby, you gotta know how to laugh and have a good time, appreciate the small things. A locket that was saved, a stranger smiling at you with kind eyes, that song on the radio.
Before I drove out, I heard "Only Love Can Mend a Broken Heart" by Aaron Neville on the radio, and I started crying like a baby. It kills me to leave you, but I'll be back, NOLA. You will never see the last of me, not till I rest in your serl.
Friday, May 12, 2006
Miss you, New Orleans
"Wanna go back home, go back home, go back home...to my used-to-be." (From a song whose name I can't remember by the Neville Bros. on an amazing compilation called "Miss You, New Orleans" or is it "Love You, New Orleans"?)
Those words are a lot more poignant after seeing some of the remnants of Katrina that still remain on the streets of the greatest city in the United States. Oh my heart.
These people's pursuit of the American Dream ripped to shreds and thrown into the street, just lying there almost a YEAR after the disaster, as the next hurricane season looms over them, a possible repeat offender lurking in storm clouds. God DAMN this administration and the city and state governments (in an Old Testament, fire-and-brimstone sense) for what they've done to these people. Normal, average people who worked so hard to buy those houses, to turn them into homes, to put their lives into them. Now those homes are ghosted with those lives and you can only wonder what became of the dreamholders, the landholders who have become displaced people because nature turned its knuckles on them and their governments turned their eyes away. Where are they? Are they alive? What's left in their hearts? Do they burn stronger or have they burned out? Light to guide them. Please, light.
Then I came home to revise the haiku I'd written for Jolene and Bryan's wedding tomorrow. Here they are. Beauty and love do still thrive, regardless of the thrashing.
5 Haiku for Your Wedding
1.
Your hearts were gypsies,
looking for warm-lighted homes.
Your arms, open doors.
2.
Two: solid, treelike.
Your roots tangle to make shoes
that stain your bare feet.
3.
Hands clasped, you both leap
without fear into the light.
Blossoms pave your way.
4.
Lifelong seduction:
At home in each other's arms.
You have made a nest.
5.
Tequila, vodka.
Hot Brooklyn courtyard, summer:
Van Halen approves.
Tuesday, May 09, 2006
Femme on the Streets, Butch in the Sheets
Today the subject is gender and sexuality. I'm obsessed with it. I keep reading about studies and books online. The whole concept of a gender role, a sexual role. It all adds up to mere stereotype when you think of trying to fit yourself into some narrow space defined by other people. Groups tend to do it: they're all clubs formed for the sake of inclusion, but there's always the inverse. Inclusion necessarily creates exclusion when you congregate. That doesn't mean I'm against congregation, by any means. It's a beautiful thing. I just know that the group I most identify with are displaced people and exiles. Point is, everyone's usually looking for some kind of home, a mirror to soothe their own conflicts. Among the most rugged individual, I think we'd be hard pressed not to find someone who's looking to make the "other" understand. Even the "Other" needs understanding. So I sympathize with the Other. The outcast, the misfit. That's my phat society. Those are my loves. The writers who explore it and had lived it.
So, beyond that, I was reading about transgender teens, which sparked all kinds of other thoughts and curiosities: intergenders (hermaphrodites) and us inverts (homos) and heteros who don't fit, bisexuals, crossdressers, fetishists...oh on an on. Then it starts to feel like we all have so much in common. I wish I could get to what I'm actually trying to say, but the more I talk about it the less I know what I aim to say, except that I feel like we're all -- I don't care who you are -- displaced people on the plane of sexuality. We're all true individuals and at some points feel a little weird if we let ourselves be absolutely honest about what we're feeling at those heightened moments of clarity. Life is surreal during those moments. So crystalline it almost doesn't make sense.
And how weird to bring such private things public as a way of defining oneself. Some can't avoid it being noticed, in the case of gender and hormones and appearances, but for the rest, we speak, so the private then becomes public. God, the line between politics and privacy, between turn-on and statement. When we really just all want to feel good. Why do some of us have to fight so hard for that simple, sweet desire?
I found good links that made me think of this stuff. Here they are:
Resources I bitched about not having after seeing Brokeback Mountain (ie, hope and encouragement)
http://glaad.org/eye/brokeback_mountain.php
She's Not There -- book about a writer going from male to female
http://www.randomhouse.com/features/shesnotthere/
There are more, but I'll elaborate later. I'm tired. And SO excited about my escape from New York and my first return home to New Orleans since before Katrina. More later.
So, beyond that, I was reading about transgender teens, which sparked all kinds of other thoughts and curiosities: intergenders (hermaphrodites) and us inverts (homos) and heteros who don't fit, bisexuals, crossdressers, fetishists...oh on an on. Then it starts to feel like we all have so much in common. I wish I could get to what I'm actually trying to say, but the more I talk about it the less I know what I aim to say, except that I feel like we're all -- I don't care who you are -- displaced people on the plane of sexuality. We're all true individuals and at some points feel a little weird if we let ourselves be absolutely honest about what we're feeling at those heightened moments of clarity. Life is surreal during those moments. So crystalline it almost doesn't make sense.
And how weird to bring such private things public as a way of defining oneself. Some can't avoid it being noticed, in the case of gender and hormones and appearances, but for the rest, we speak, so the private then becomes public. God, the line between politics and privacy, between turn-on and statement. When we really just all want to feel good. Why do some of us have to fight so hard for that simple, sweet desire?
I found good links that made me think of this stuff. Here they are:
Resources I bitched about not having after seeing Brokeback Mountain (ie, hope and encouragement)
http://glaad.org/eye/brokeback_mountain.php
She's Not There -- book about a writer going from male to female
http://www.randomhouse.com/features/shesnotthere/
There are more, but I'll elaborate later. I'm tired. And SO excited about my escape from New York and my first return home to New Orleans since before Katrina. More later.
Monday, May 08, 2006
I love to laugh!
And this is what does it these days. Mostly bad dancing. I'm culling moves for the wedding I'm going to. Gonna blow 'em away!
Dorktastic!
Superhero Guy and Bad-dressing Hip Hop Guy with Fiddlers
Liza on Larry King
Finnish MTV
Gay Aliens
Dorktastic!
Superhero Guy and Bad-dressing Hip Hop Guy with Fiddlers
Liza on Larry King
Finnish MTV
Gay Aliens
Friday, May 05, 2006
Lesbians with Small Dogs
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